The Problem With Porn Sex

Porn-sex and real-sex are two completely different things. Don’t get them confused. Porn-sex is for redtube downloads and real-sex is for everybody else.

It’s just unfortunate that everybody else got confused. Sex Ed. is one of the most useless and misguided subjects taught in schools. Hormonal teens are encouraged to abstain but if that fails they’re given a banana, a condom and a spreadsheet of infectious diseases to work with.

It’s not helpful and it’s definitely not working.

We’ve turned to the internet and it’s prolific porn collection to work out what sex is, how to do it and what it looks like – and herein lies the problem – porn sex is great, but not everyone likes getting cum on their face, gets-off on anal and enjoys being choked with glad wrap.

Real sex requires communication – yep, you actually have to talk.
Real sex is messy and awkward – not everyone can squirt like a pornstar, go figure.
Real sex often involves feelings and emotions – it’s not all about the money shot.

Porn is great for those wanting fantasy and stimulation. It should be used as a fun value-add to an already engaging and fulfilling sex life but some guys (and gals) are getting confused and the boundaries between porn-sex and real-sex are starting to become misconstrued.

Here are some of the fundamental differences:

Pubic hair – pornstars don’t have pubic hair. Real people do. What they do with it is optional as waxing hurts and shaving itches. Note to the lads; not every girl you hook up with is going to be hair-free and you’re just going to have to deal with it.

Anal – the camera loves penetration. That’s why anal (as a category) is more popular than missionary (which is more about skin-on-skin contact). Again, anal is an optional extra not the norm. I suggest you ask first and not presume that everyone likes it up the posterior.

Dirty talk – I don’t like being called a slut, bitch or whore. I find all three slightly offensive. But that’s because I have real-sex not porn-sex where this tends to be the norm.

Arousal – female pornstars need very little foreplay and they’re always raring to go. They’re acting. Most woman would prefer (and expect) just a little more enthusiasm and effort from their partners.

I’m “pro-porn” and believe that it has a place in a healthy sex life. But I am concerned that porn is being used as an educational device by inquisitive teens and the sexually naïve who struggle to tell the difference between porn-sex and real-sex.

People are becoming over saturated with porn, fantasy and unrealistic sexual ideals that no one can meet. My advice. Stop watching porn and have more sex (with real people). Talk more, communicate more and explore further. Be vulnerable and intimate. Real-sex is so much more satisfying than watching strangers, midget’s and gimps go at it.

As always I hope this post is of value to you and I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.


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